Beau Marriage and Family


Who viewed passionate love as a kind of dangerous illness?


Ancient Greeks and Romans


Altruistic Love


Agape


Friendship Love


Philo


What kind of love was unreliable


Passionate


The Greek/Roman attitudes on love influenced _____in the middle ages.


Europe


An attachement between people and is a foundation for a strong love relationship.


Friendship


____ enjoy each others company and are willing to support and help each other.


Friends


Love involves:


Emotional highs and lowsinstabilitypassionexclusivenesssexual desire
ALL ARE UNSTABLE


Intimacy with, caring for, and commitment to another person.


Love


Love arises from


need satisfactionsexual attractionpersonal kinship ties


The meaning of love is_____. Meaning that it can vary according to time, culture, and place


Subjective


A person who is temperamentally suited to another.


Soul mate


____is a human, universal, or atleast a near-universal phenomenon.


Romantic Love


As the US became more industrialized choosong a marriage partner shifted from having a ______basis to a more ____one


EconomicEmotional


Love can have both a ___state and a ___state


PhysicalPSychological


Love's physical state


lust or sexual arousal


Love's psychological state


sexual desire


What is calmer than romantic love


compassionate love


____emphasizes intimacy with, affection for, and commitment to another person


Compassionate love


___ couples experience love with the same intimacy and intensity as heterosexual couples


Same sex couples


Why do same sex couples hide their true feelings?


Public disapproval


Biochemical theory


Love is a natural high- love results from our biological, chemical, and hormonal makeup.


Attachement theory


Closeness in a survival need- our primary motivation in life is to be connected with another person for security.


Wheel theory


The four stages of love- love develops and is maintained through:

rapportself revelationmutual dependency& Intimacy need fulfillment


Triangular theory


Emphasizes 3 important elements of love that interact with one another

IntimacyPassionDecision/comitment


3 ways love can go away


JealousyUnrequitted LoveControlling


Jealousy


Feeling that something threatens your relationship.

A negative response to either a real or imagined threat to a love relationship

(suspicious or reactive)


Unrequitted love


love that is not returnedMore attractive rejects less attractiveLess serious rejects more serious


Immature Love


Passionate thinking, passionate feeling, and passionate behavior


Mature love


trustworthy, stable, caring, kind, and someone you actually like


Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:

Eros


Love of beauty and the physical.

Intense emotional attachement and powerful sexual feelings


Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:

Mania


Obsessive Love

Strong sexual attraction, emotional intensity, extreme jealousy, and mood swings between ecstasy and despair.


Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:

Ludus


Playful Love

Casual and carefree love that focuses on sex as recreational and not serious.


Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:

Storge


Compassionate Love

Affectionate, peaceful, and compassionate kind of love.


Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:

Agape


Altruistic Love

Unselfish, self-sacrificing Love


Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:

Pragma


Practical Love

Makes a rational assesment of the potential partners positives and negatives


Men are jealous about ___, women about ____


SexIntimacy


Jealous people are more apt to be ___ people


Insecure


Closed Courtship


Neither partner sees the other until the day of their wedding


Open courtship


individual decisions are made about choosing our partners


Propinquity


filter people on the basis of their nearness to you in time and place


Endogamy


filter people on the expectaion you marry within your own social group, race, religion, and social class.


Exogamy


Filter People on their cultural expectations that you marry outside your family group to avoid incest.


Courtship


process by which a commitment to marriage is developed.


Dating


process of meeting people socially for the purpose f possibly forming an exclusive long term relationship.


Recreational Dating


Dating can be and is supposed to be fun


Companionship


Dating is a way of having friends


Intimacy and sex


many teens discover sex and sexuality in the course of dating.


mate selection


A goal for many in dating is to find a mate.


Socialization


dating helps to socialize us to get along with the opposite sex.


Status achievement


dating enhances a person's status by showing others that he/she is acceptable, desirable, and grown up.


open fields


settings in which people do not normally interact and so potential partners are no likely to be met.


Closed fields


settings in which people are likely to interact and potential partners may meet


variations of dating


Traditional courtship

Hanging out, hooking up, joined at the hip


Cohabitation


A couple in an emotional and sexual relationship sharing living quarters without being married


Reasons for cohabitating


The linus blanket- 1 partner is insecure

Emancipation- to express independence from parents

Convenience- get needs fulfilled w/out marriage

testing- trial marriage


3 stages of living together


blendingnestingmaintaining


blending


partners are infatuated with each other


nesting


a passion subsides, the partners emphasize other grounds for compatibility


maintaining


the partners establish patterns of stability and traditions


Sexual Script


set of expectations as to how one should behave in sexual situations


Mens sexual script-


Men are supposed to be in charge, confident, aggressive, not tender.

Sex is for orgasm; not intimacy


Women's sexual script


women are expected to be beautiful, loving, nurturing, and accomodating. Not supposed to talk about sex.


Sexual fantasy


any mental representation of any kind of sexual activity


Sexual dream


occurs during sleep, without a person's conscious control


masturbation


self stimuation of the genitals for sexual pleasure resulting in orgasm.


Celibacy


a person who have no sex


atypical sexuality


voyeurism, fetishism, exhibitionism, sadamochism, obscene phone calls


Double standard


premarital nonmarital sex is more acceptable for men than women


permissiveness with affection


allows premarital or nonmarital sex for both men and women, provided that they have a affectionate and commited relationship


Permissiveness without affection


allows premarital or nonmarital sex for men and women regardless of the amount of affection


Excitement phase


physical reaction to erotic stimulation


Plateau


sexual excitement and muscle tension continue to build


Orgasm


the most ecstatic for those that experience it. Rythmic concentrations cause the release of neuromuscular tension and feelings of intense pleasure


resolution phase


when the body returns to its unaroused state