Beau Marriage and Family

Who viewed passionate love as a kind of dangerous illness?

Ancient Greeks and Romans

Altruistic Love


Friendship Love


What kind of love was unreliable


The Greek/Roman attitudes on love influenced _____in the middle ages.


An attachement between people and is a foundation for a strong love relationship.


____ enjoy each others company and are willing to support and help each other.


Love involves:

Emotional highs and lowsinstabilitypassionexclusivenesssexual desire

Intimacy with, caring for, and commitment to another person.


Love arises from

need satisfactionsexual attractionpersonal kinship ties

The meaning of love is_____. Meaning that it can vary according to time, culture, and place


A person who is temperamentally suited to another.

Soul mate

____is a human, universal, or atleast a near-universal phenomenon.

Romantic Love

As the US became more industrialized choosong a marriage partner shifted from having a ______basis to a more ____one


Love can have both a ___state and a ___state


Love's physical state

lust or sexual arousal

Love's psychological state

sexual desire

What is calmer than romantic love

compassionate love

____emphasizes intimacy with, affection for, and commitment to another person

Compassionate love

___ couples experience love with the same intimacy and intensity as heterosexual couples

Same sex couples

Why do same sex couples hide their true feelings?

Public disapproval

Biochemical theory

Love is a natural high- love results from our biological, chemical, and hormonal makeup.

Attachement theory

Closeness in a survival need- our primary motivation in life is to be connected with another person for security.

Wheel theory

The four stages of love- love develops and is maintained through:

rapportself revelationmutual dependency& Intimacy need fulfillment

Triangular theory

Emphasizes 3 important elements of love that interact with one another


3 ways love can go away

JealousyUnrequitted LoveControlling


Feeling that something threatens your relationship.

A negative response to either a real or imagined threat to a love relationship

(suspicious or reactive)

Unrequitted love

love that is not returnedMore attractive rejects less attractiveLess serious rejects more serious

Immature Love

Passionate thinking, passionate feeling, and passionate behavior

Mature love

trustworthy, stable, caring, kind, and someone you actually like

Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:


Love of beauty and the physical.

Intense emotional attachement and powerful sexual feelings

Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:


Obsessive Love

Strong sexual attraction, emotional intensity, extreme jealousy, and mood swings between ecstasy and despair.

Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:


Playful Love

Casual and carefree love that focuses on sex as recreational and not serious.

Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:


Compassionate Love

Affectionate, peaceful, and compassionate kind of love.

Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:


Altruistic Love

Unselfish, self-sacrificing Love

Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:


Practical Love

Makes a rational assesment of the potential partners positives and negatives

Men are jealous about ___, women about ____


Jealous people are more apt to be ___ people


Closed Courtship

Neither partner sees the other until the day of their wedding

Open courtship

individual decisions are made about choosing our partners


filter people on the basis of their nearness to you in time and place


filter people on the expectaion you marry within your own social group, race, religion, and social class.


Filter People on their cultural expectations that you marry outside your family group to avoid incest.


process by which a commitment to marriage is developed.


process of meeting people socially for the purpose f possibly forming an exclusive long term relationship.

Recreational Dating

Dating can be and is supposed to be fun


Dating is a way of having friends

Intimacy and sex

many teens discover sex and sexuality in the course of dating.

mate selection

A goal for many in dating is to find a mate.


dating helps to socialize us to get along with the opposite sex.

Status achievement

dating enhances a person's status by showing others that he/she is acceptable, desirable, and grown up.

open fields

settings in which people do not normally interact and so potential partners are no likely to be met.

Closed fields

settings in which people are likely to interact and potential partners may meet

variations of dating

Traditional courtship

Hanging out, hooking up, joined at the hip


A couple in an emotional and sexual relationship sharing living quarters without being married

Reasons for cohabitating

The linus blanket- 1 partner is insecure

Emancipation- to express independence from parents

Convenience- get needs fulfilled w/out marriage

testing- trial marriage

3 stages of living together



partners are infatuated with each other


a passion subsides, the partners emphasize other grounds for compatibility


the partners establish patterns of stability and traditions

Sexual Script

set of expectations as to how one should behave in sexual situations

Mens sexual script-

Men are supposed to be in charge, confident, aggressive, not tender.

Sex is for orgasm; not intimacy

Women's sexual script

women are expected to be beautiful, loving, nurturing, and accomodating. Not supposed to talk about sex.

Sexual fantasy

any mental representation of any kind of sexual activity

Sexual dream

occurs during sleep, without a person's conscious control


self stimuation of the genitals for sexual pleasure resulting in orgasm.


a person who have no sex

atypical sexuality

voyeurism, fetishism, exhibitionism, sadamochism, obscene phone calls

Double standard

premarital nonmarital sex is more acceptable for men than women

permissiveness with affection

allows premarital or nonmarital sex for both men and women, provided that they have a affectionate and commited relationship

Permissiveness without affection

allows premarital or nonmarital sex for men and women regardless of the amount of affection

Excitement phase

physical reaction to erotic stimulation


sexual excitement and muscle tension continue to build


the most ecstatic for those that experience it. Rythmic concentrations cause the release of neuromuscular tension and feelings of intense pleasure

resolution phase

when the body returns to its unaroused state