Interpersonal Comm

Interpersonal Communication

A distinctive transactional form of human communication involving mutual influence, usually for the purpose of managing relationships. an I - Thou relationship (important people in ones life)


Communication with yourself. (thinking)

Impersonal Communication

When you treat others as objects or respond to their roles rather than who they are as persons. an I - It relationship (sales clerks, servers, when one has no future or history with the person)


The source puts a message into a code. To translate ideas, feelings and thoughts into code.


The receiver interprets the words or nonverbal cues. To interpret ideas, feelings and thoughts that have been translated into a code.

Model of Communication- As an action: Message Transfer

oldest and simplest model of communication. communication transferring meaning. "did you get my message?

Model of Communication- As an Interaction: Message exchange

Adds feedback and context. doesn't quite capture complexity of Human Communication. Linear step by step process, but both sender and receiver send and receive messages at the same time.

Model of Communication- As a Transaction: Message Creation

All components (responses) are simultaneous. Systems theory (all elements are influenced by other elements)

Principles of Interpersonal Communication

-interpersonal communication connects us to others
-interpersonal communication is irreversible
-interpersonal communication is complicated
-interpersonal communication is governed by rules
-interpersonal communication involves both content and relationsh

interpersonal communication connects us to others

We have to communicate if we live in a society of people

interpersonal communication is irreversible

Once something is said it cannot be taken back

interpersonal communication is complicated

Involves six people:
-who do you think you are
-who do you think the other person is
-who the other person thinks you are
-who the other person thinks he or she is
-who the other person thinks you are
-who the other person thinks you think he/she is

interpersonal communication is governed by rules

Each rule is developed mutually by the people who are involved in the interaction and the culture in which they are communicating.

interpersonal communication involves both content and relationship dimensions

Content: consists of communicating a message of information ideas, or suggested action that the other speaker wishes to share.
Reality: offer cues about their emotions, attitudes, and amount of power and control the speaker feels over the other person.

Myths: All interpersonal relationship problems are always communication problems

Principle: Interpersonal comm. connects us to others
Reality: We understand what someone means and feel connected and still not agree with them.

Myth: A message can be taken back because when information has been presented communication has occurred

Principle: Interpersonal Communication is Reversible
Reality: Can't simple erase of delete scenarios or information

Myth:There are simple solutions to all interpersonal comm. problems

Principle: Interpersonal Communication is complicated
Reality: Not always simple, but rules are made by the relationship itself

Myth: Meanings are wordss and gestures

Priciple: Interpersonal comm involves both content and dimensions
Reality: Meanings reside with a person based on their interpretation of both content and relationship.

Self Concept

A persons subjective view of who he/ he is

Looing Glass Self

One learns who they are based on interactions with others, who reflect self back to you

Looking Glass Self Developes:

-interactions with others
-associations with groups
-roles you assume
-your personality