Life Management Skills Module 3 + 4

I" messages statement patterns

1. avoiding using "you" statements that will escalate the conflict2. to respond in a way that will de-escalate the conflict3. to identify feelings and validate the other person's feelings4. to identify behaviors that are causing the conflict5. to work toward resolution of the conflictState persons nameState how you feelIdentify the issueState what you want

Define 1-way and 2-way communication

- One-way communication occurs when the person sending information can't obtain feedback- Two-way communication occurs when the speaker and the listener both provide feedback

Non-verbal communication

any means of sending a message that does not include words like gestures and eye contact

Active listening skills

when the listener gives the speaker frequent feedbackPurpose it to show speaker you are understanding the message Paraphrase what they said like What I think I hear you saying is In other words you think thatCorrect me if I'm wrong but aren't you saying

Identify the roadblocks to communication and why they effect communication

1. avoiding subjects- you never get to voice your feelings on the subject by its always avoided 2. mind reading- they're assuming that they know how you feel but you never really get to voice your feelings which might be different 3. mixed messages- you might feel like they don't care about you be they don't care enough to listen 4. silence- something is wrong and your trying to send that message to the other person 5. tuning out-really not interested in listening so you don't and the other person doesn't feel support 6. different outlooks-two people feel differently about something

What are the two ways we communicate? What are the characteristics of each?

- vertical and level communication - vertical are power, prestige, and position, it means these goals are negative. 1. Soliciting attention 2. Bossing or punishing 3. Creating or maintaining distances 4. Surrendering -Level is an equal plane, you demonstrate that you accept responsibility for your behavior and are sensitive to the feelings of others1. Sharing opinions 2. Seeking to understand 3. Negotiating and committing 4. Encouraging

Why is compromise a very important part of conflict resolution?

So that you can resolve the problem and move on Actually resolve it and squash it

Legal ramifications of smoking

No one under 18 can have any tobacco products.$25 fine 16 hours community service Anti tobacco program 3rd time within 12 weeks of 1st 2Revoked car insurance and license

The effects of smoking on the body

Cigarette smoking is the leading cause of death in the United States. Smoking increases the risk of things like coronary heart disease, having a stroke, and lung cancer (it can cause cancer in almost anywhere in your body). It affects a person's health negatively.

Effect of tobacco smoke on others and unborn babies

Smoking during pregnancy can cause premature birth, ectopic pregnancy, bleeding from the vagina, stuff like that. When you smoke during pregnancy, all of the chemicals in the cigarettes enter the baby's bloodstream. Even secondhand & thirdhand smoke can affect people (especially babies).

Long-term effects of smoking marijuana

Cancer, respiratory problems, and problems associated with immune system. Addiction which leads to negative effects on family relationships, school performance, and recreational activities. Can gain tolerance to effects and go to heavier drugs for same effects

Know drug effects and classifications

Inhalants WhippetsDepressants- Relieve anxiety and produce sleep Roofies and date rape drug Decreased alertness, confusion, drowsiness, lack of coordination, irritability, poor coordination, lack of judgement, loss of appetite, sleep disorders, nausea, addiction, possible death.Hallucinations- Disrupt nervous system in your body, causing changes in the way you sense the world around you Ecstasy and acid (LSD) Vary; dilated pupils, higher body temperatures, increased heart rate and blood pressure, sweating, loss of appetite, dry mouth and tremors, and possible deathMarijuana- mind altering drug making it illegal to usepot, weed, and Mary Jane. gateway drugtrouble with memory and problem solving skills and learning and thinkingNarcotics-treat pain and induce anesthesiasmack drowsiness, inability to concentrate, apathy, lessened physical activity, constriction of the pupils, constipation, nausea and vomiting, and most significantly, respiratory depression and/or death.Stimulants- Stimulants speed up the activity of the brain and the spinal cord.coke crack Excessive doses of these drugs can cause death from heart failure.Over the counter-usually safe with normal consumption; however, when the drugs are used incorrectly/in large quantity, problems can occur.tipsy, or disconnected—lights seem brighter and sounds louder.

Signs of Inhalant use

Inhalants are household products such as aerosol sprays, cleaning fluids, glue, paint, paint thinner, gasoline, propane, nail polish remover, correction fluid, and marker pens.Signs:Slurred speechDrunk, dizzy, or dazed appearance Unusual breath odorChemical smell on clothingPaint stains on body or faceRed eyesRunny nose

Social implications of drug use

Mood swings Uses drugs to cope or relax Hides from family or friends Steals to finance Changes in friendshipsObsessed with how to obtain itAttempts to quit but can't

Explain the steps of the Matthew 18 principle in dealing with conflict M3

Talk one-on-one with person that has offended you (no gossip)If that doesn't work take 1 or 2 others as witnesssesIf those don't work then take issue to a bigger or higher up groupIf those don't work then dismiss them from group church organization etc

Be able to give a verse that pertains to communication. M3

Ephesians 4:29 Do not let unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen

Alcohol related accidents a major cause of death among teens age 15-19

Teen account for 7% of all drivers but are involved in 14% of all fatal auto accidents and 20% of all accidents. 6694 people were killed in crashes involving alcohol in US average of 1 every 31 minutes Alcohol contributes to 85,000 deaths annually in US Car accidents are leading cause of deaths for teens ages 15-19

Be able to give verse to overcome addiction

1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And god is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so you can endure it.